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should i hire a private eye?

maybe, maybe not.

People seem to think its all a necessary part of divorce or that a private detective will put them at an advantage in the court process. But this is not always so.

There are three reasons why you might want to hire a private detective to nose around your spouse’s affairs: to find out about infidelity, to prove infidelity, to find out more about someone’s finances.

As for the first – well thats a matter for you and your conscience.

Lets be honest, if you’re thinking of hiring a private detective your relationship is probably already in difficulties. As for the second two reasons, here are a few things to think about:

Proving infidelity. Why?

Are you doing this for emotional reasons or practical reasons? Be honest with yourself.  People feel compelled to find out all the hurtful things their spouse has done, but you probably already know s/he’s a *bleep* – will it really make you feel better? 

If its the latter – what is it you think you’ll get out of it in practical terms? A better cut of the cake? Read on… Continue Reading…

what to expect at court

For many people going to court to sort out a divorce or separation or a dispute about children can be daunting. Often people involved in a court case have never been to court before at all, and all they have to go on is what they’ve seen on the telly or been told by friends. For others, maybe they have been in a crimina court as a juror or witness or defendant, but even that doesn’t give you much of a clue what you’re in for.

It probably won’t be much like the picture in your minds eye. A little bit of nerves is normal, but it probably won’t be as bad as you expect. This is what you might expect (although its slightly different in every court): Continue Reading…